Tuesday, July 1, 2008

IN THE MIND OF THE VICTIM....




Have you ever been cheated on? Lets re-live those feelings. Pick up their cell notice a unfamiliar name but a re-accruing number or notice a change in your partners emotions,routine, and sex drive. You ignore it as a phase or maybe its a dry spot in your relationship. Arguments don't get resolved plus your partners attention to you is decreasing. WTH? You ask that question that make your stomach cringe and your heart race. "Are you seeing someone else?" Now your anxious for a reply. Hoping for a, "Baby naw why would you say that?" Your partner steps back your heart drops a tear crawl down your face as you look at someone you thought you knew. Their response doesn't matter b/c your feeling is true unless...unless they say, "No I will never do that to you I know we been in a dry spot baby but I love you!" That response would've made you love them more than anything but that's not the case...."Baby I'm sorry." is uttered so softly. You can't think, swallow, nor breathe! All you see is memories rewinding.... flashing....damn such good times. All you can say is, "Leave just leave!" But you so wanna say, "Stay and Why Why Why?! What have I done?!" But your only strong enough to scream, "GET OUT!".......






24 comments:

Angie Marie said...

Ohhh yes! I know how that feels lol. He was alwayssss at the clubs & I found out when we were at ma dorm. 2c what he would do, I took his phone & put in his away message "Im with my girlfriend right now, fuck off" & he took the phone read it, & said "nahh man dont write that" lol. I was koo since I cheated on a great guy, so I just look at it as karma. DONT CHEAT ON PEOPLE GUYS!

& 4 the last post that dude is crazy rich! & your stupid 4 bringing that up with your inlaws lol. Looks like yall had fun! & look @ that cute bay-bay!

Dreamy said...

ohhhh lord please dont tell me that is happening to you, cause i will be so sad.

and yes i remember the feelings i had. i wanted to knock the hell out of that negro. i wanted to throw blows at that negro, but i remembered he was 280 lbs ya see.

so i stepped my black azz back.

just tell me this is not happening to you and i will be alright

Charlotte Webb said...

This is heavy; I appreciate your well wishes friend!

Angie Marie said...

I accidently deleted my last comment. But I hope this isnt about you, I doubt since you have a cute fam:)

arychtexas said...

@ i've been cheated on before and ive been that guy on the side so i thought ill just express that through this blog....yeah that cat is crazy rich...DUMB MONEY!

@ dreamy naw my wife reads my blogs! yeah you got to simmer down when they that big!

@red anytime i bet its nice in NY!

Alice S. said...

This is kinda scary...

tris. said...

sigh. i couldn't imagine the feeling. from my knowledge. i've never been cheated on. in retrospect, i think one definitely may have but he was gay anyway so i don't really care.

on the other hand. i've been the cheater before. it is a difficult position to put yourself in, especially if you love the person (or at least care about them) very much. i never confessed so i can't say i've seen the crestfallen, heartbroken look mixed with disappointment, anger, sadness that i may have deserved.

it was just such a complicated situation. sigh. cheating sucks.

Sexxy Luv said...

yes I have been in those shoes let's hope i'm not stepping back into them!

Sexxy Luv said...

I have been the cheater as well, i felt as if i needed to pay someone back for my heartache & pain.

i know

sad but true

Samson said...

I hate to go against the grain but I believe it is possible to have sex with somebody and still love someone...

FlyyGurl said...

yep, yep, yep, that's definitely a tma version of how it goes....in my version in pop my neck a couple of times and then throw down with the nigga....someties the girl...though we all kno that's wrong.lol but hes a DJ so i gotta be careful not to break his fingers or he'll call the police on me for real....lol

arychtexas said...

@ ms uncensored that might be part II the life of the cheater.....

@ sexy lluv oooo man cant take out ya frustrations on somebody else

@ andre man thats crazy how can you love someone and sleep with someone else and still make yourself think that its ok...smh....try tellin someone you sleeping with someone else and see they reaction!

@ fly gurl beat em down but save his wrists and thoart! hey gotta shout people out and spin the records!

Miss Foxxy said...

i've cheated [i was young and it was high school], i've been the "other woman" [without my knowledge], and i've been cheated on [kinda].

it was back in college.. i was with the guy for like maybe 10 months or something only [spring semester plus thru the summer], and when we got back to school for fall semester, he started to ignore me for no reason. yeah, he wasn't even man enough to verbally break it off with me, haha. anyway, it was his BOYS that ratted him out and told me that he was actually messin' around with these two white girls who lived in his dorm. when i heard that, i was thinking, okay.. i guess we're thru. so i started talking to other guys and doing the single thang [nothing sexual].. and i guess when he found out i was talkin' with these other dudes, that's when he decided to sit me down and tell me that his "heart wasn't into it anymore" and he "really wants us to still be friends" but "we should see other people." HAHA i guess he didn't want people to think i was playin' him, which is why he was so quick to finally verbally end the relationship when he found out i was already talking to other guys. but it was okay for him to go around bragging that he was with me and also messin' with two snowbunnies on the side. he knows he messed up cuz he kept tryna get back with me up until i told him i was in another relationship.. and upon hearing that, he turned around and finally decided to wife up one of the white girls [who was waiting for him to make it official with her for 2 years] he "cheated" on me with. he's a sad, sad case.

dejanae said...

ima need for folk to stop cheating
if u dont wanna be with the person, letem know and find the damn door

arychtexas said...

@ miss foxy was you with jesus shuttleworth cause thats what happen in he got game hahahahahaha

@ deja you right thats the grown up choice but like donnell Jones said, "BUT WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE U JUST DONT TREAT THEM BAD O HOW I FELL SO SAD NOW THAT I WANNA LEAVE!" people with families they got to think about they kids i guess and everything that falls in with that but the initial feelings are anger and sadness

Sexxy Luv said...

Folks be needing time to see where they wanna be! lol

HeyShae! said...

Getting cheated on blows big time. People who stay have something I will never have - big hary b----... sorry I'll keep it clean. I can't stay with a cheater because if I lose your trust you're pretty much dead to me. I don't have time to spend worrying about what someone will or won't do behind my aback and who doesn't have my best interest at heart.

arychtexas said...

lol @ sexy luv

@ shae shae welcome back and yeah i been cheated on once and i been that guy on the side once that i know of and i cheated once so it was my first time for everything huh?

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

It's a Cold World out there, don't let tha Sunshine fool ya.

K. Denise said...

I guess I agree with Andre on this one. But I'm kind of a hypocrite so don't pay any attention to what I say.

arychtexas said...

@ boss mack lol welcome back and yeah it is a cold world out there so you better have ya northface!

@ k. denise yeah we all are at some point but andre i guess i have to agree to disagree....

Samson said...

I believe once your emotions aren't there 100%, then you're a cheating ass mufucka. this sums up my feeling exactly
But if you're honest, and direct, And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news, The girl will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly she'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner In which you told her your decision


BTW happy 4th

arychtexas said...

thats runny foo foo stuff bro..cheating starts in the mind and heart not a drunk mind but ya sober mind. you make that decision to cheat! no matter how str8 up you are you gotta be man enuff to say this aint gonna work i want to be with somebody else! how easy is that? no you know what it is its greed! people always want more than what they can handle! and im not gonna waste another breath....

Taryn said...

i never been cheated on, but i have had my heart broken 3 times. I pity the guy who would ever cheat on me, God have mercy on his soul. *laughing evilly*