My wife best friend daughter is bad, out of control, and I witness this first hand! She is 2 1/2 and she hits her mom, screams if she doesn't get her way, she runs off and plays hide go seek in the mall and you hardly can find her, most of all she doesn't mind her mom! But there is a but she listens to me. WTHello? Her baby Daddy and her aren't together anymore. They had an apt but they moved back in with the parents after the split. But he works the night shift and sleeps in the day and when he is off he takes care of her. He makes sure she eats right and disciplines her but he's barely around b/c of "work." Her mom isn't what we call a disciplinarian but she does try calm her down. Her only fault is that she gives her anything she wants to shut her up! Now don't get it twisted she doesn't neglect her child! She is a loving mom and she works like a dog. Its just hard for her b/c its just her. Its kind of sad b/c her maternal instincts aren't as good as other single young mothers ya know in my opinion. So who fault is it for the behavior of the child? The "workaholic" father? Premature mother? Or the undermining child? You choose...but I blame the parents! They made this child and no matter how under prepared the mother and the fathers work load shouldn't prevent them from raising this child right. The father should step up and do her share b/c that's his child! He should be obligated in his heart and soul to cut back "working" to take care of his child! She should organize and prioritize to make a better balance life for them. For example eating times for her, bath time, and night time this should be a routine...
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Exactly. Maybe if the child had a more structured life, then she wouldnt be such a bad ass. But she also needs 2 stop giving her things to shut her up. Some how she needs 2 find other ways to stimulate her. As 4 the dad, he def needs 2 step up. If she listens 2u, then it seems she wants a fathered figure. Although hes there, hes not really there
Ugh, there is no excuse for a lack of structure and discipline in a child's life. No matter what your work schedule or social schedule, there is always room to teach and nurture your children. If you can't do that send them to someone who can before you mess'em up for life.
yeah i agree with blahhh and shae, there's no excuse. they need to get it together like for real
Someone need to beat the ......oh sorry, but that is why in society kids do what they want. If we were able to beat our kids and it is no longer considered child abuse then kids would then mind.
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this is what she should do, the next time they are out in the mall and the little girl acts up she should grab her firmly by her arm with a little shake get close in her face and tell her little girl that her behavior is not okay, and if she does it again she's going to tap that azz!
works everytime for me! lol
Routines are important for children. After all the books i have read, the classes i have taught. its VERY important for children to have order.
its hard to say what a parent should do, because we are not them. our children are important but so is work.
i learned one thing from a man who raised 5 children. when he first married he was studying and working and so was his wife, they had children and the still managed to raise disciplined kids, he says its not how much time u spend with the child, but the quality of the time.
there are parents who stay home all day and their kids is bad, and dont know shyt, and then their are others who work their tail off, and raise geniuses. its all about the quality of the time, i think...
@ blahh&dreamy i agree with you all da way!
@ shae shae i think you have to have maternal insticts to know how to nurture a child in this case
@ kin i think that is a "part" of discipline but not major part i think the presence factor should out weigh the physical contact
sexy luv lol.....thats how you get em!
judy d i think you hit it on the nail the QUALITY OF THE TIME!
ahhhh. the undisciplined children. with those, the parents are always at fault. always. both of them. parenting is a team sport. u know teamwork makes the dream work. lol. but really tho. he needs to make time for her daughter. and she, well, she needs to have backbone. and they both need to give her structure.
this reminds a lil bit of my youngest sister. she has a different mother than me. she is a spoiled rotten brat. to be perfectly honest aside from the fact that she's my sister and i love her, i cant stand the bitch. honestly. her mother spoiled her horribly. never disciplined her at all. the whole entire living room at one point was taken up by her toys. (and it was not a small one mind you). ughh. for her first5 years, my father was definitely present. he tried as best as he could to discipline her. but. my father is not the greatest of parents. he just can't help it. he's clueless. sigh. watevs.
They both need better parenting skills. However, I do believe that some kids are just "born bad" lol. It sounds like the fault of the parents in this case though...
its just the simple fact that all families are so damn broken now a days that some kids are born crazy and they grow up crazier, and the negative cycle goes from generation to generation. I think all her kid needs is love and tough love, thats the only reason why im sane at the age of 19.
but in all honesty she just needs a couple of whacks across her behind.
@uncensored smfist at wack daddies and teamwork is the best work!
@pretty hip I don't think you can be born bad
@skinny don't kno about having the crazies but I a whooping is a good thing.
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